Do you think that if we see a negative comment on JD (concerning the abuse claims) we should reach out to the OP and prove our point? Because I feel like that is the right thing to do, but I also get really upset when I participate in a conflict, especially on the Internet.
It does seem like a hard choice, but I urge you to not let it be.
Your own mental health should always come first.
If I were John answering this question, he’d say the same thing. He would never want you to sacrifice your own well being for his.
I will always, always be on the side of self care. Take care of yourself first, above all.